Being gay and married

The Gay Male in the Direct Marriage

Rob rushed into his first session with me, gym bag on one shoulder, briefcase on the other, 10 minutes late and out of breath. He set his bags down, gently put his Blackberry on the table in front of him, and heaved himself onto the couch. He sighed and began: &#;Okay, I&#;m gay, I&#;m married, I hold three kids, and I&#;m not getting divorced.&#; He&#;d mutual some of this information with me in our cell conversation, but I was still struck by the feeling of hopelessness in his tone. As he paused, awaiting my response, quite honestly, I was awaiting my response as well. I knew this was not Rob&#;s first experience in therapy and that a lot was riding on what I was about to say.

Rob had been referred by a former client of mine he&#;d met in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Just out of alcohol rehabilitation treatment, he&#;d begun attending AA meetings, where he&#;d shared parts of his story. He described a drawn-out struggle with his sexual orientation, growing up in a devoutly Roman Catholic family, where he learned that his sexual attraction

I’m a Straight Woman Who Married a Gay Man

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Dear Prudence,

I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in care with each other and have been married for nine wonderful years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about being queer and has never concealed it from me. Only one of our reciprocal friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we thought it would be best to remain expose with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our mutual companion. Our son took the news very well and doesn’t care that his father was gay.

I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I assume they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t appreciate my husband, but that’s a different letter

Marriage Equality Around the World

The Human Rights Campaign tracks developments in the legal recognition of same-sex marriage around the world. Working through a worldwide network of HRC global alumni and partners, we lift up the voices of community, national and regional advocates and share tools, resources, and lessons learned to allow movements for marriage equality.

Current State of Marriage Equality

There are currently 38 countries where same-sex marriage is legal: Andorra, Argentina, Australia, Austria, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Denmark, Ecuador, Estonia, Finland, France, Germany, Greece, Iceland, Ireland, Liechtenstein, Luxembourg, Malta, Mexico, the Netherlands, New Zealand, Norway, Portugal, Slovenia, South Africa, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, Taiwan, Thailand, the United Kingdom, the United States of America and Uruguay.

These countries have legalized marriage equality through both legislation and court decisions.

Countries that Legalized Marriage Equality in

Liechtenstein: On May 16, , Liechtenstein's gove

Coming Out When You&#;re Married: A Brave Journey

She was so genuine in wanting to help her coming out husband. Wanting nothing more than for her husband to be happy and for their children to go through any transition smoothly, she was eager to learn and romance. It took her husband quite some time to make it in to our sessions because he was terrified that was would cause his family pain.

For a variety of legitimate reasons, coming out to your spouse can be a very scary and challenging process, to speak the least. You’ve built a life with someone, and the idea of unraveling and abandoning that history can leave your central nervous system paralyzed. Perhaps you are considering if the benefits of coming out really outweigh the costs.