Middle age gay
What No One Tells You About Being A Middle-Aged Gay
Embracing aging as a gay man can be an overwhelming and liberating experience&#;
By Jumol Royes
Gay culture is youth obsessed. That’s not breaking news.
Yet not even the queer glitterati have figured out how to stop the biological clock and put a halt to the aging process.
I turned 40 recently and was forced to reckon with the great expectations this birthday is burdened with. After remembering that birthdays are simply temporal markers that we use to remind ourselves, and each other, that we’re still here taking up space, I got to thinking about all the things no one tells you about becoming a middle-aged gay man.
For starters, you don’t receive an email or mobile notification reminding you to adjust your Grindr tags and tribes from twink, twunk or cub to bear, daddy or zaddy, for those of you with a little extra swagger in your step.
Planning to meet up for drinks with a guy from the dating app? Be prepared to possibly spend more money than you accounted for when you discover that you’re not only respons
Gay Men in Mid-Life: Now What?
You bought the condo. You got the employment. You might even contain the boyfriend. You came out. You made friends. You saved for retirement.
You took the trip. You ate the food. You posted the photos.
And yet, you wonder: Is this all there is?
For many of us, these are the experiences of homosexual men at midlife.
We disburse the first half of our lives doing and striving. And when most of the goals are met, we feel clueless and disappointed.
Everyone talks about getting, but no one talks about what happens after you get it. It doesn’t seem right to complain about having a lot.
If we race away from this discomfort we may end up with too many hangovers, too much time on the internet, or too many disappointing hook ups.
Things get interesting if we stay curious about this uncomfortable experience of “blah”. Underneath the boredom or light depression is a rich world of feelings and a new vision waiting to be discovered.
For most men, the first half of life is about building a being and building the society. The external takes most of our energy and commitment.
In the s
Gay Midlife Crisis: It’s a Thing
Therapists don’t often share their own life stories. Our focus is on you, not us. But sometimes what we’ve learned from our personal challenges can motivate our clients. So here goes.
A couple of years ago my life looked great. In proof, some would portray it has “gay heaven.” I really did have it good. I had:
a wonderful LGBTQ association of 25 years (and the sex was still good)
a great apartment in San Francisco (and a view)
loving friends and family (with people I could tell anything)
an adorable dog (I am not being biased — everyone said she was the cutest dog ever)
meaningful work as an LGBTQ therapist (and a full practice)
the appropriate amount of money saved for retirement for a person of my age (that’s what the financial planner said)
good health and a super adorable trainer. (No photos available)
It doesn’t receive much better than that, right? And yet, I surprised myself when suddenly I wasn’t cheerful and sometimes slightly depressed.
I didn’t perceive it. I had already done years of personal labor with therapy, workshops, reading, yog
Gay Life after 40
Hello, my name is William Smith, the founder of Homosexual Life After
Our motto is &#;Keep Aging Forward.&#;
I grew up in Kenosha, Wisconsin, between Milwaukee and Chicago. I worked and lived in Chicago for approximately 20 years.
We possess two online platforms:
The first is a Facebook Community called Gay Life after It’s a private organization for gay men over
I was inspired to start this Group after seeing a void in presenting ourselves and having meaningful discussions in our age group. I was opposed to middle-aged men uploading images of themselves when as adults, they were at an age where their experiences had substance and dialogue.
Gay Animation After 40 has 42, members and is growing rapidly. It has change into one of the largest gay Facebook groups in the country. We yearn men to interact with each other, learn, seek questions, and engage. We do not talk about politics. Everything else is ok.
To generate provocative discussions within the group, I spend time with other men to understand their thoughts and questions, which allows