Is my mum gay

My Mum Tried to Pray the Male lover Away, So I Blocked her Everywhere

Trigger warning: Sexual abuse

Charles* (30) and his mum were friends. She knew he was queer. She never accepted it, but it wasn’t a problem. She loved him, and they spent moment scrolling through TikTok together. But after her sister died, things got terrible, and she wanted to pray the gay away. It didn’t go good — and led him to block her everywhere.

This is Charles&#;* story, as told to Dennis.

In January last year, I sat with my mum in the sitting room. The television was on, but no one was watching. The rugged floor was dusty, and we were both glued to TikTok. We loved doomscrolling together on Sundays when she didn’t go to labor. We were friends— the last of our family in Nigeria—and TikTok was a bonding ritual. Sometimes, queer content would come up. My mum would sigh, but that was all.

Things started to change after her sister died three years ago.

We’ve been through a lot together as a family. Ten years ago, I went to a party with friends. A friend of a friend who knew my sister recorded me at the party a

Q:

My mother is gay, but she does not recognize I know. About two years ago at Christmas I found a card from her &#;roommate&#;, stating she has a difficult time when the kids are around because she cannot express her feelings towards my mother.

This letter did not come as a big shock to me, since they own been living together for seven years. I predict my question is, should I just leave adequately enough alone? Or would it be better to get this out in the open?

I feel my mother is afraid we will not love her anymore. This is not true. I am just glad to see her finally happy in animation, but she avoids her family.

I know the finest thing to do is to let her realize we are OK with this, but I just can&#;t get up enough nerve to do this. I am so frightened of the initial confrontation.

A:

Your question seems to be more about how to talk to your mother about this rather than if you should at all. You said yourself that your mom is avoiding her family &#; that&#;s what closeted people have to do to avoid getting &#;caught.&#; If you and your mom and her &#;roommate&#; proceed to not acknowledge their relat

There’s a long-running joke in my family that my mom is gay. When I tell people this, they assume that her and my father are divorced or that he is otherwise out of the picture. He is not. The joke has evolved in a way that we’ve gotten her comfortable enough to self-identify as bi-curious, which I think is really rad and cool for her.

My mother grew up in Queens and went to an art and design high school in Manhattan where she was exposed to all different kinds of lifestyles. She then went to Bard College (gay) where she kissed her girl friends (gay) and studied art (gay), all while dating my father. Though she’s exhibited gay behavior her entire life, it wasn’t until about that we started asking questions. Here’s why:

She has her MFA in Creative Writing from Sarah Lawrence College

Going to Sarah Lawrence College is one of the gayest things you could execute, and more people would undertake it if it wasn’t so fucking expensive. As an elder, my mom went back to school and got her MFA at Sarah Lawrence and was a graduate assistant on the literary magazine.

When I came out to her, she respon

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